The Confessing Baptist recently did a podcast with Aimee Byrd, author of Housewife Theologian, blogger, and contributor to “The Mortification of Spin” podcast. Now this Baptist must confess: I don’t always read the comments at the Confessing Baptist. This time I happened to skim the comments associated with the post and it was rather surprising to me. One of the commenters appeared offended at the term “lady”:
Next time you interview a woman I’d suggest skipping the part where you point out repeatedly (that is, on this page and in the podcast itself) that the person being interviewed is not a man and instead go straight to talking about theology and ideas.
It will make your podcast stronger and more edifying for your brothers and sisters in Christ.
P.S. The better word for our sisters in the Church is women, not ladies.
The commenter, Tim Fall, has a blog in which he discussed his issue with the term “lady”, which may be read here.
What is a woman, and what is her role in life? What does it mean to be a Christian woman? Can men benefit from women, even if Scripture says women are not allowed to teach or have authority over men (1 Timothy 2:12)? Is the term “lady” demeaning?
And God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them (Genesis 1:27, NASB)
What is a woman?
While a woman, I cannot speak for all women, and would be a poor representative. Many women’s Bible studies leave me annoyed. There is too much “sharing” and not enough digging in the Word to affirm that the sharing is biblical. I do cry at some movies, but despise saccharine-laced mediocrity. Fashion is not my thing, and while I admire my friends who are able to coordinate from head to toe, my efforts at choosing accessories on a daily basis leave me overwhelmed. While I have a sweet tooth, I didn’t even like chocolate much until after having children!
But are those the defining marks of a woman? What does Scripture say?
How does a Christian woman act?
On one end of the spectrum we have those who insist that the woman’s sphere is only the home, that dresses are the only way to be feminine, and that unless you are promoting material on how to be a wife and mother you shouldn’t speak out and make waves. On the other are those who insist that women should be free to have whatever vocation they choose, wear whatever they choose and should raise their voice loudly and often. Either side holds up their model of an ideal woman. Lately I have grown weary of opinionated “how-to’s”.
How does Scripture say to act?
Can Christian men learn from their sisters in Christ?
On this blog I make a point that I write primarily for women. Men can certainly learn many things from women, but I do not wish to purposely teach men. I have no way of knowing if men read here in order to be taught, but hopefully they have enough warning that this blog is written by a woman and will proceed accordingly.
Is the term “lady” demeaning?
Is it okay to call myself a Christian lady? Does lady denote something that we should not strive to be? Can one not be a powerful lady?
If you ever see me use the word “lady” on this blog, please know I am not meaning to be pejorative. I had not heard that anyone was offended by the word until this week. For me, “Woman” has such a serious tone to it, whereas “lady” is lighter. “Ladies” also connotes an element of fun that “female” and “woman” does not.
We do need to be clear and careful in our speech. Words should be chosen carefully. We should be respectful when someone has a concern with our words and actions. Yet our words and actions need to conform to Scripture, not the opinions of men OR women.
For all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free man, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus. (Galations 3:27-8, NASB)
photo credit: “Flower” by Andreas Thell